Snuggle All My Bugs Together

imageChuck is adjusting pretty well. I would say that being 2.5, a precocious little genius and accustomed to being the constant center of attention could all prove to be pretty big hurdles to scale when it comes to adding a baby brother to the mix. But, she loves him, she “just LOVES him SOOO much!” Her words. And actions, as she tries to smother him with All.The.Love!

When Hfoe brought C to the hospital to meet her new comrade, he also brought the Calico Critters and school that I had gotten ahead of time to be the gift her baby gave her. It was a glorious plan in my mind. She would be so enamored with the baby and then he/she would give her a gift, too?! Wow, this sibling thing is pretty awesome! I also thought the little critters would be a perfect “sometimes” toy for her to play with only when I was nursing the baby, thus keeping her both occupied with the “special” toy and blissfully unaware that I was trapped on the couch, plugged in, unable to reprimand her for whatever she happened to be getting into at the moment. The best laid plans…

As they walked into our hospital room, I had baby Bug in his bassinet so the first thing C saw wasn’t HER mama holding a different kid. I squealed with delight to see her and invited her to join me on the bed. We hugged and cuddled and then she said, “Mama, what’s that?” “That’s your brother, G. Would you like to hold him?” “Sure, Mama.” So, hubs took baby boy out of his cozy bed and we cocooned Chuck in pillows as we laid him precariously in her lap. She poked him and kissed him and examined his tiny face…and then she was done. She wanted to explore the interesting hospital room. But, first, the gift! “OOOOH, cooool!” She loved it! That’s it. I was a genius and my plan was going to work perfectly.

Then, Buddy started to cry. I saddled him up to my boob to nurse (at which he was already a pro) and I didn’t think anything of it. She had her magical toys, after all. Oh the sob that broke from her sweet little gut just about broke my heart. I have actually never heard my girl make that sound before. “Nooo, don’t give him milkies! That’s my milkies, mama! Why, mama?!” It makes me tear up writing this two months later. I had no idea that it would hurt her so much to see me share her special mama time with another baby, without ever asking her if it was ok.

C only gets nursed to sleep now, so I guess I didn’t think it would be that big of a deal to her. I was very wrong and it has taken a long time to make things right. After lots of explaining that he can’t eat the food she can and involving her help to get burp rags while I breastfeed, she now shares milkies with her brother without a fight. In fact, on occasions when Hfoe has to work late and baby Bug is awake when I put his sister to bed, she will ask to “do milkies all together…so I can snuggle all my bugs.” I love her terminology to describe our tandem nursing sessions. It is such a sweet, sweet time where she caresses his head and he holds her finger and I stare at them both in the dark. I know that C will likely be weaning completely soon, so I am cherishing what little time of this we have left.These two precious little beings, my snuggle bugs, all together, doing their “milkies”…I never want to forget it.

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Pregnancy Awareness Month Event and Giveaway!

Yesterday I had the honor of being invited to the blogger brunch hosted by MomsLA to kick off the Pregnancy Awareness Month event in Santa Monica. And boy, was I glad to be there!! We got pampered with makeup and eyebrow shaping by Evolue Beauty Beverly Hills, hair styling by Jin Bang Hair, facials by Josie Maran Cosmetics and lunch by Paleta! Even Chuck got in on the action asking for more “lips” from my makeup artist!

Chuck and me with Chris from What I run Into

After the blogger brunch, the event was opened for the public to explore over 50 different baby and pregnancy related vendors in attendance, complete with samples, info and raffles. Everyone from Happy Family to the Honest Company were represented. Of course, as I have gushed a hundred and fifty times before, my all time favorite baby company, Ergo Baby, was also there! I so enjoyed speaking with Ms. Cynthia Neiman, their Chief Marketing Officer and I think she enjoyed meeting Chuckles, who, if I may say so myself, was rather charming with her hot, sweaty hair-in-her-face style after playing outside in the too-awesome toddler zone! Oh, and we were not surprisingly sporting our preferred carrier, the new 360…so that may have been an attention-getter as well.


Cythia Neiman from Ergo, Dr. Tanya Altman and Dr. Harvey Karp

Another highlight to my afternoon was listening to the many knowledgeable speaker panels presented on topics titled, “Ask the Pediatrician,” “A Clean Start: What You Don’t Want To Overlook for Healthy Homes and Happy Children,” Childbirth Options,” and “Mom and Baby- Tips and Tricks for a Healthy Start.” The stand-out in my mind was hearing Dr. Harvey Karp of Happiest Baby on the Block fame speak on the difference between the ideal of “nuclear family” and the reality of what families have looked like throughout history. Let’s just say this…parenting is tough these days, y’all! Also, I have to add that for one of the panels Dr. Karp sat behind me to listen in the audience and he totally played peek-a-boo with C! I have officially traded my groupie status for bands like Matchbox 20 for geeked out mom status over the baby shusher. No joke. But this guy SAVED MY BRAIN when Chuck wouldn’t sleep, so I guess the adoration is due.

Hfoe also enjoyed a panel specifically for the dudes called, “What About Daddy?” It has prompted him to want to speak out about being a dad so be on the lookout for some special edition posts soon, folks!

In total, we spent about 5 hours at Bergamont Station in Santa Monica for this event that brought together new and expectant moms from all over Southern California and proved to be a platform for education and support. It was a day completely well spent! Thank you MomsLA for pampering me and thank you Pregnancy Awareness for what you do!

Because I had such a great time and because we had such generous vendors, I decided to host a giveaway for a goody bag filled with many of the same swag items I received! With items from Josie Maran Cosmetics, Ergo, Honest Co, Daddy & Co., Bona, Pump Station and the book The Ultimate pH Solution: Balance Your Body Chemistry to Prevent Disease and Lose Weight, this is a pretty great prize and I wish you luck! Spread the word!

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